Too Old to Show Cleavage?

It may be time to button up a bit

September 2, 2010
Susan SarandonSource: Joe Corrigan/Getty Images

Susan Sarandon adjusts her dress to cover up a bit.

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Because things we took for granted when we were younger – sag-free upper arms, a firm butt – are just not what they used to be, we've learned to dress around our changing bodies.

So why is it that so many of us still insist on showing off cleavage well past our breasts' best years?

Regardless of whether you are small, medium or large breasted, time has probably taken its toll on your decollete. Sun spots, freckles, wrinkles and sagging are just a few of the not-so-pretty effects of time that keep your cleavage from looking, well, as fresh as a 20-year-old's.

Does this mean you have to shy away from swimsuits or button your shirt up to your neck? Nope. It just means that a cut-to-there top or a 5-inch line of cleavage isn't your best look.

Not everyone agrees with me that there should be a cutoff date for excessive cleavage. Actress Susan Sarandon, seen here in the photo, is frequently pictured with substantial cleavage at 60-something.

If you, like me, are ready to button up a bit, here are some alternatives to cleavage in middle-age:

  • Off-the-shoulder. I'm a huge fan of off-the-shoulder looks at this age because it's a way to dress sexy without really showing anything. And all women have sexy shoulders.
  • Draped necklaces. Not only are they chic, they are a way to create a long, vertical line that draws attention to the bodice without the obvious bareness of exposed cleavage.
  • Layered looks. You can give the illusion of cleavage by opting for a peek of a lace camisole under a shirt or jacket; you can also layer a tank or T-shirt in a lighter color (white or nude) under a sweater or top that has a deep V neck to suggest cleavage without showing anything.

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Anonymous | Feb 6, 2011
After age 40 women should button up. Sorry but by that age you dont hold a candle to women in their 20s.
wearpurple | Feb 27, 2011
Seriously? "Chauvinist pigs" might have to be re-defined if this poster is a young woman. If you are female, I am happy to let you know you'll be over 40 before you know it. Hopefully you'll be more willing to accept the beauty of all ages by then. No one would want to hold any candles to someone so shallow.
fembott | Feb 10, 2011
That's a sweeping statement! This is my opinon: women in their twenties don't have the presence, confidence, experience or wisdom of women in their forties. If an older woman has taken good care of her stuff she is just as alluring if not more so than a woman in her twenties. Any woman with a wrinkly, badly freckled, scarred and otherwise horrible looking decolettage should consider covering up. However, not every woman over forty has these issues and not every woman in her twenties is immune to these issues.
Anonymous | Jan 31, 2011
Worst article ever. Useless.
ragemond | Jan 30, 2011
the larger the funbag,the more fun
Anonymous | Jan 30, 2011
Sad and pathetic and misinformed, oh and more than a tad bit puritanical. Some Americans still falsely believe that we dress to sexually engage others and that everything about our dress is part of the sexual signals. In more informed and less puritanical countries, women believe that one dresses to feel good about oneself. Case in point, notice the older women in France and Italy and Spain and, well, add about 15 more countries... and you will see women proudly wearing what feels good to them. They aren't advertising their wombs for occupation. They aren't trying to convert Mormon missionaries. They are enjoying the wind on their skin, the sun on their bosom, the feeling of freedom on their bare legs. Grow up, author, whomever you are - and when you do, allow yourself to dress however you feel like it. Oh, and meanwhile, let other women where what they want too. You may have noticed, women's lib means that you are allowed to do what you want with your body. You may want to check out Youtube for videos about it in case you haven't seen it.
Anonymous | Jan 24, 2011
Sorry, I don't buy it. Age is not an issue. I've long had a thing for Judi Dench and she's well past any possible arbitrary cutoff. Helen Mirren's photos showing her on the beach were fantastic. Age is not the issue. Being alive as hard as you can is the issue.
Anonymous | Jan 23, 2011
I like this site.
Anonymous | Jan 23, 2011
Showing cleavage is now part of fashion – part of a woman's wardrobe, whether you are 16 or 60. Some women say it makes me feel sexy to show cleavage. What exactly does that mean? What does it mean to be sexy? www.Dictionary.com defines 'sexy' as; provoking or intended to provoke sexual interest, concerned predominately or excessively with sex, sexually interesting, radiating sexuality. This universally accepted definition doesn't imply that one's desire to be sexy is as benign as saying; 'you look good today,' or 'that is a nice shirt you are wearing.' Sexy, by definition seems to clearly suggest something closer to actual sex. But maybe its men who interpret sexy more literally and women who bastardize an accepted definition to suit their own meaning. Maybe to women, sexy (showing cleavage in this case) means that you want guys to glance for a few seconds and that makes you feel good. But is it a different kind of feel good then when someone compliments a woman for wearing a nice shirt or new hair style. Does it mean you don't want a guy to stare because, especially if he isn't good looking, then he is a pervert. Or from the guy's literal perspective – showing off half your breasts could mean any number of explicit sexual acts - I want to stick my penis between your breasts, I want to rip your clothes off and have sex with you. Showing cleavage simply means that you are an exhibitionist, it has nothing to do with being sexy (simply a word women use out of context). Exhibitionists will always garner quick looks, extended looks, explicit comments, and socially unaccepted advances. Women, if you truly want to be sexy, then prepare to be sexualized.
fembott | Feb 10, 2011
I agree. When I'm showing my cleavage I'm attempting to sexually charge the air around me. I expect men to look and lust, I'm inviting them to; particularlly my husband.

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